In this chapter the book is talking about how when you are a new couple you look forward to spending all the time you can with your spouse. You think of them often when they are not with you. You are excited when it comes time to see them. But as we get further along in our relationship the excitement wears off and the joy fades. So this chapter challenges you to delight in your spouse to remember the joy. To lead your heart rather then just following it. " You don't let you feelings and emotions do the leading. You put them in the back seat and tell them where you are going" It goes on to talk about how in marriage relationships your heart doesn't always feel like loving but love dares us to make a decision to love. We are suppose to remember why we fell in love with their personality. Remember why we fell in love with them.
This chapter shares a love story from the Song of Solomon as inspiration for the day. The woman:"Like an apple among the trees of the forest, so is my beloved among the young men. In his shade I took great delight and sat down, and his fruit was sweet to my taste. He has brought me to his banquet hall, and his banner over me is love"(Song of Solomon 2:3-4)
The man:"Arise, my darling, my beautiful one, and come along! Oh my dove, in the clefts of the rock, in the secret place of the steep pathway, let me see your form, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your form is lovely"(Song of Solomon 2:13-14)
People, be honest, am I the only one who reads that and thinks OMG! that's in the Bible? lol Dude its like reading a crazy love scene out of one of those books! You know the ones you can buy at the grocery store where the man is all buffed out and the chicks boobs are about to fall out of her shirt! The Bible gives us as couples this example to follow we are suppose to enjoy each other this much to look forward to this special quiet time with our spouse to want to get to know them on a deeper level!
I think for me as a wife of a fireman this one comes somewhat easy most of the time because whether you like it or not they have to go and usually for days at a time. Even a normal 24 hour shift you are forced to go without them so you look forward to seeing them more because you do not get to see them all the time. I used to say, and still believe it, that although Jts schedule is hard on us, it is good for me I always get my alone time when I need it or even when I dont, and I never get the chance to really lack appreciation for the time I get with him. Although there are those long stints that he is home, all up in my business where I wanna scream and make him go somewhere ;).
So the dare for this chapter was to "Purposefully neglect an activity you would normally do so you can spend quality time with your spouse. Do something he or she would love to do or a project they'd really like to work on. Just be together.
Our normal evening routine has become Jt sits down watches a movie, I sit down and get my various projects done. Instead I put off my projects and focused on spending time with him. It wasn't easy I take my evenings pretty seriously with all the sewing, blogging, reading, journaling, crafting and so on that I "have" to get done. It is my time because during the day my time is focused on him and the kids. But I put it down for the evening and you know what it was actually good for me I need more rest, more "just doing nothing" with my man. Learning more about who he is and how he ticks. So all in all it was a good exercise. Will I do it everyday? Probably not. But I can definitely make more time for it in our life. :) Truth is I think we all need this, almost to remember why we are living this life together! Because when life gets crazy and hectic your spouse will be there holding your hand listening to you and as a team you will have to get through it.If you dont remember all the good in the bad times you might lose eachother in the chaos. :( So make special time it will only make you stronger! Thanks for reading.
LT
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