I had mentioned on my facebook page that I would write a blog about the experience I had at the grocery store yesterday so here it is. Its not as fresh in my head but I am calmed down so it will probably not come out as harsh as it would have last night. I would like to add though that yesterday was the last of a long 72 Jt came home this morning Thank God. It had been a long weekend. Nothing major had happened and really me and the girls just laid around but I was extra tired for some reason. So it felt long. Alisa had school friday. We went to the park on saturday and of course sunday was spent at church. Sundays are always crazy days for me when JT is gone because I have to get me and the girls ready, feed and water all the animals and be to church by 8:30 a.m. then we are there until about 1pm. This particular sunday was crazy. Anabelle had two "dirty" not pleasant at all diapers and ran out of clothes. So she ended up in church clothing. Then I go to get Abby and her teacher informs me that she "smells"... lol thats what I get for letting her dress her self that morning. I totally did not even realize she put her clothes from the day before back on! Then I go to pick Alisa up from her class and one of my friends tells me that Alisa had been saying how starved she was all morning!!!! LMBO! Seriously! The crazy part is on a normal day this would have caused me to be somewhat of a wreck. But I was actually in a "no big deal" kind of mood. I wasnt embarrassed or upset. Things happen and I know that my kids are well fed well bathed and well taken care of and loved. Besides the fact that none of the people who had told me about each girl knew at all about what I had already had to hear about the other ones.(I hope that makes sense lol) So after that long day then we headed over to the station to visit JT and drop of some tamales I had made. We started talking about a very heated subject and as soon as we start to argue ha wouldn't you know it he gets a call "saved by the bell" NOT!!! So instead of waiting for him to get back me and the girls head home. We all lay down for a nap to catch up on our energy from the crazy morning. I make Abigail change her clothes of course ;) and when the girls woke up we headed to the store for dinner stuff.
I thought since we had a crazy day it would be nice for us all to have some good "girl" time so we decided to make homemade pizza and watch a movie. So I get the grocery list together and we were off. When we got to the store the parking lot was full I thought oh great its packed this outta be fun! Surprisingly once inside I realized it was actually pretty quiet, me and a few other shoppers. So I have no idea why the parking lot was so full. So I go straight to the flour isle. One of the employees was there and right behind me a lady comes down the isle. He asks her if he can help her find anything and she says "yes, birthday candles" he shows her to them a little ways down the isle. Im aware of her and her phone conversation but more paying attention to what I am looking for. She leaves the isle and I find what I am looking for. We move on. The girls are being extra good standing right next to the basket.(This detail is important later) Thinking back its weird because they are usually hard to corral. We head out of the isle and the same lady flies around the corner not paying attention and nearly runs right over the girls! They are sandwiched now between mine and this ladies shopping cart! I get no "excuse me" or "oh Im so sorry" NOTHING!! The girls move over she gives me a dirty look and rushes past! I calmly say out loud "really?" "Alisa are you ok?" (she came pretty close to Alisa Im not sure that she didnt hit her to be honest it all happened so fast) Alisa says "yeah, I'll be ok" and we move on. We head over to get pepperoni's and after that we head to the sauces as Im headed down the center isle this lady comes flying out behind me. I can feel her on my butt and say nothing. As soon as I stopped to turn down the sauce isle she rams into my back!!! This time I stopped and blocked her way! I turned around very calmly and started in "REALLY!!! That is twice now! You are lucky you did'nt hurt one of my kids... please slow down" she yells at me "KEEP YOUR KIDS BY YOU! WHO STOPS RIGHT IN FRONT OF SOMEONE LIKE THAT!?DONT BE STUPID" I was still blocking her way not really on purpose it just so happened to be where my basket was she proceeds to push my basket out of the way and tells me to move out of her way! STILL no excuse me! I then said "Really?! You are being really mean and my kids are right by me!!! she has the balls to say "OH good you listened to me". Oh man BIG DEEP BREATH!!! No i didnt listen to you they have been right next to me this whole time!! Please slow down!! She runs off yelling shut up your stupid stay out of my way!!!! Oh my gosh! I also somewhere in there told her how mean she was being hahahaha where were my curse words when I needed them. ( its still a trip to me that I didnt blow up on this women) thinking back on it and all the things I could have done and didnt I am surprised at myself. All I can say is wow God really can and really does change you! Three years ago or even Five this women would not have been so lucky! She has no idea where Ive been and the things Ive done. Granted I dont know her either but I sure know me and she didnt scare me. So after ALLLLL that would you believe it if I told you... Not ONCE, Not TWICE, but THREE times this women ran into me!!! The third time I got quite a bit more verbal then all the previous! Still though no cussing or being mean! I told her she was lucky she didnt run one of the girls over and break a bone she needed to really slow down! I dont know at this point it felt like we were the only ones in the store besides the employees I was shaking, you know that feeling you get right before you get into a boxing match? lol or maybe you dont. But that's how it felt! She went to check out and I went to grab some wine and fruit. When I was done and went to check out she was leaving and you could tell she had told the cashier as much about it as she could before she left. I wanted to cry!!! The cashier asked me how are you today? lol Uh been better thanks! Then God gave me a sweet glimmer of hope. A cute little old lady gets in line behind me and says "Oh look at how cute she is, you have beautiful girls" *sigh* then I wanted to cry more hahaha I said a very sincere "THANK YOU" she had no idea how special that was to me at that very moment! When we left I thought that crazy lady is now behind the wheel of a car! She cant drive a shopping cart Lord knows how she drives a car! So I warned the girls to stay VERY close to the cart! Not that I thought the lady was going to run us over on purpose I simply thought wow she was in a rush she probably is going to rush in her car too! It ened up being a really great lesson for my girls! We teach them to say excuse me and thank you and also calling people names like stupid is not aloud in our house and since this lady broke all our rules the girls got to see first hand how rude it really can be and how ugly and nasty it looks! I still thought all sorts of horrible things! Then I had a thought and I know its that cheesy christian thought but I really meant it sincerely I thought "I really should pray for her! I have no idea what made her so mean but I could pray for her" I still havent lol but trust me this memory wont fade fast! I was literally heart broken! Which is another crazy part and how I know God changed me from the inside out! I wasn't mad (ok a little) but more then anything it just made me sad! Sad for me, sad for my girls to have witnessed and been treated so harshly, and more then anything sad for that women! What has she gone through who has treated her so harshly that she feels the need to treat children that way! Now don't get me wrong! If I felt my kids were in true danger or it had escalated any further I would not have been so nice! I wouldn't have acted irrational but I would have called the cops or something... its simply NOT okay to treat people or children that way! Its called having respect for fellow Human beings and if you cannot find it in you to do that I dont know if I would call you human! I am glad its over and also glad its not the only store in town I wont be going back to that location for a while! Im a little offended that none of the employees said anything. At the end of it all I was very proud of me! I know my girls are watching! I am their example!
LT
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