First off I need to put it out there once again! This book is crazy! It maps things out so perfectly for you, each exercise preparing you for the next! If you have the right mind set and are determined to finish this book no matter what, it WILL teach you steps to learning to love.
Love cherishes, the book tells a story about a man who owns a car that begins to have serious trouble after having it looked at they say it would take all his savings to fix it. He decides to get rid of the car and use his savings on a new vehicle. Another man, an Engineer, accidentally crushes his hand in a piece of equipment. Once at the Hospital realizes he will have to spend his life savings to fix his hand. Without even thinking of course he gets his hand fixed. The problem with our culture is marriage is often treated more like the first scenario. It goes on to say that the bond between a man and a women is like the second scenario we would not cut our hand off if it were broken we would do all we could to fix it. This is how we have to treat our marriage.
I cannot say I have always treated my marriage this way in fact I haven't always believed my marriage to be this way! I used to tell Jt all the time you are not here because I need you, you are here because I want you! Which at the time was probably closer to the truth because I was too damn stubborn to lean on him but the truth is God has given him to me especially for that! To lean on when I am weak to cry to when I am sad to share joys with! He is my gift from God or one of the many anyways! God has created him special for me! I could not have pick a more perfect partner. It goes on to say that when we show love to our spouse we are showing love to ourselves as well. But there is a flip side to this coin when we mistreat our spouse we are also mistreating ourself.
So the dare for this was... What need does your spouse have that you could meet today? Can you run an errand? Give a back rub or foot massage? ( I dont do feet :/ eww) lol. Is there housework you could help with? Choose a gesture that says, "I cherish you" and do it with a smile. So I helped Jt with yard work. He will usually ask me to help and I dont I tell him its better we split up and get more done. But he tends to work better with an assistant so this day in particular I chose to just help. It was growth for me because truth is I tend to want things done my way and nothing else will do. Jt will almost always go about something way differently then me and yet we end up with the same results. Other then getting over myself and allowing him to do his thing and not only that but assist him in doing HIS thing it was not too complicated a dare! On to day 12, It feels like day 20 though. Thanks again for reading.
LT
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