Well I am happy to say day 3 and 4 are much easier then day 1 and 2! The dare is to contact your spouse sometime throughout the business day just to say hi. Since JT was home I had to get creative. So I was up before the family had all the animals fed watered and also I let him sleep in I asked the girls to be quiet. He has a cold coming on so I "thought" it would be nice to not bug him let him get up when he felt like it :)! I kept the girls busy by teaching them how to make strawberry pancakes! Which was a lot of fun! I also made extra so when he woke up he could have a warm breakfast. He is a big eater so this gets him and Im sure he loved the strawberries because he tends to enjoy more healthy foods. You know the kind that do a body good ;).
I spent the whole day like this just trying to stay on top of it all so that he could enjoy the kids and try to get better. It was really cool too because without me prompting he decided to take the girls to the apple store to look at hard drives. (I need more memory on my computer to get my business stuff back up!) So I think that my patience, kindness, trying to not be selfish is kind of rubbing off. :D The best part is I didnt even do it for that! So all in all it was a really good dare day, I am happy to check another off but I sure am feeling like they are going to hit me with a big one soon! So needless to say Im on my toes!!
A little bit about what the book had to say that stuck out for me was... (Ladies you are going to like this one:) "Let's be honest. Men struggle with thoughtfulness more then women. (True) A man can focus like a laser on one thing and forget the rest of the world. A woman, on the other hand, is more multi conscious, able to maintain an amazing awareness of many factors at once. She can talk on the phone, cook, know where the kids are in the house, and wander why her husband isnt helping... all simultaneously. LMBO!! After this paragraph I stopped my reading looking for an Author to see if it was a woman! Hahahaha. Here was a key verse that I liked Genesis 2:18 it is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him." I really like this verse because in the past few years I have taken pride in what my job as a wife is, and here it is in black and white. Makes my heart smile a little.
It also went on to talk about how women talked between the lines and men speak directly. Then women want to know their man is thoughtful enough to read between the lines. This got me twisted a bit. I dont agree with women acting this way toward our men. I married a man not a women so why would I expect from him what a women is suppose to be? Does that make sense? I want him to be my hero, to stand up and be strong, but then all the sudden I expect him to act and think like me? How fair is that to our Male counterparts girls? This is why WE are that way because men have trouble in this area and men can be strong and brave because it balances us women out. Not that I cannot be strong and brave but it sure is nice to let someone else do it for me on occasion. I also think it is a mind game we play with men and its unfortunate that we are passing this down through our young girls. I hope and pray that my girls can grow up to know, appreciate, and love the men in their lives! It sure makes for healthier relationships when we know what parts we play. If I want Jt to do something I have learned to just freakin say it!! Literally one day I simply said " I am really bummed today and dont know why can you please give me some extra attention!! Guess what he didnt have to guess i didnt have to get mad and I GOT what I wanted!! ITS THAT SIMPLE!! Sorry if anyone gets offended by that but I have never found more joy more happiness then when I am loving caring and nurturing to my husband, and guess what when I act like the women God created me to be not only am I happy but my husband is too which makes for a happy relationship! Okay Ill hop down off the soap box now.
All in all I had a good day four and checked it off the list. Tomorrow is " Love is not rude" and the dare is to ask your spouse to tell you three things that cause him or her to be uncomfortable or irritated with you, you must do so without attacking them or justifying your behavior. This is from their perspective. :/ well that sounds like it will make for an interesting story!! LOL So stay posted Ill let you know what goes down... wish me luck and Goodnight!
LT
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