Love dare Day 3 finally!! something EZ!!

  Dare 3 was Love is not selfish. Okay yes i said this one wasnt hard I know! But really the dare part was not. The dare was simply to buy something special for your spouse. Funny thing is since I didnt read this dare till later on today and the day was half over I was sitting on the couch and jokingly I told JT "Hey do you mind keeping an eye on the girls while I run up to the store real quick?" he of course asked why so I told him then we had a good laugh together because if your married you know that married with kids leaves you very little "extra money" so we both found it very funny that a learning to love your spouse book would ask you to spend money! We both like spending as little as possible lol so I moved on to reading tomorrows dare so i was more prepared then today. But then it came to mind you know I could do something without spending money. So I asked him if he would like a back rub tonight he smiled and said "Really!!!??!!" very shocked that I offered. So that is my not being selfish dare complete. Oh and wait I remembered that we needed coffee and taking initiative ;) ran up to the store without Jt offering :) so when I was up there I grabbed him a chapstick :D we LOVE chapstick lmbo! and he LOVED it when I gave it to him! I bought me one too though havent decided if that was selfish of me or not hahaha. So needless to say Thanks to the very hard challenges the first couple days I feel like they are preparing me and the book does say that about the first two, that they are foundations for the rest if you cant get them you wont get the rest.

  I also was not aloud to say anything negative to continue the kindness but it did not specify anything about being patient for a third day phew! done with that haha. OOh this stood out I really liked the bluntness of it... why do we have such low standards for ourselves but high expectations for our mate? The answer is a painful pill to swallow. We are all selfish. Sad thing is i dont think the pill is that hard to swallow I think we have all grown comfortable with selfish. Problems is it doesnt help my marriage one single bit! Also this came up... One ironic aspect of selfishness is that even generous actions can be selfish if the motive is to gain bragging rights or receive reward. So thats that I liked todays dare maybe because it was easy or maybe because I also got a chapstick :) whatever! it was sure a lot easier then the first two!! Tomorrow's dare is Love is thoughtful... we will see ;) goodnight all, as always thanks for reading!

                                                              LT